Anyone 30+ without kids yet?

[babycakes79]

Just wondering if anyone out there is - or was - in the same boat as me.

I'm 30 years old and probably won't have my first child until I'm 32. At that time, my fiance (then husband) will be 40! Is it wrong that this freaks me out a little? Part of me is so happy that I've waitied as the timing has been perfect for us and our relationship (as well as our financial status), and yet the other part of me sees all of my same-age friends having children now. I'm not jealous but I am slightly wishful, I guess you could say. Anyone ever seen My Cousin Vinny when Marisa Tomei's (sp?) character is banging her foot on the porch to imitate the sound of her biological clock? Haha - such a great scene. Well, I can't help but hear my tock clicking, too!

I think the worst part is casually mentioning to these same friends that I am excited for my own future children and they sympathetically say, "awwwe don't worry, your time will come." That is so not what I want to hear! I already know my time will come. My fiance and I are on the same page. I just want a friend to excitedly say "I know!!!" and daydream with me, I guess.

So, anyone out there with advice or going through the same thing? Went through the same thing? I need some encouragement!

[dancequeen]

Hi there,

I am 32 and do not yet have children! I am getting married for the first time this October and FH (future hubs) and I plan to start trying the following summer. We want to enjoy married life just a little bit first and get settled in together as we currently live apart.

I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting a little longer to have kids, especially nowadays. I give major props to all of my younger friends who have 2 and 3 kids...their situation works for them! I love hanging out with them and it makes me very excited to have my own someday. For now, though, I am perfectly content and am not worried at all about possible complications, etc. My FI (fiance) is 37 years old (very close to the age of yours) and he is very happy to have waited. We feel like we will be more financially stable than either of our parents were once we're ready, and we also feel more mature (although deep down, part of me will always feel like a teenager!).

I'm wondering if there's anyone on this board who waited until they were over 30 to have kids, and now do. I'd like to hear from the women who fit that mold...I want to know how they felt waiting and if it resulted in any complications or if it was the right choice for them and why. I am feeling pretty confident!